Reuniting After a Breakup: reuniting after breakup

Thursday, February 16, 2012

Take Positive Steps to Reuniting After a Breakup

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Many people have the misconception that the first step in reuniting after a breakup is calling your ex, not! You may think that it's better for your partner to see you and talk to you every available moment, to be reminded of all the good times you've had. But in a heated situation where your relationship is in crisis or repair, keeping yourself in the scene may be a case of "familiarity breeds contempt."

Actually, the first step is being able to accept what happened so you can take positive steps in making the relationship new again.

You probably know that breaking up with a person you still love is one of the most painful experiences we as humans will ever know. On the other hand, reuniting after a breakup can be the most joyful experience, giving you renewed energy and a more positive outlook on all other aspects of your life.

I know when you take advantage of this method you will finally be on your way to making up and reuniting after a breakup, continuing to make your relationship better than you could have ever imagined.

You may feel the best way to reunite after a breakup is to call your ex and beg for their return. This is not the way to go! Or you may think that the best course of action is to lock yourself in your home and cry until you've run out of tears. This isn't it either!

If you're serious about getting back together after you split up, there is a better way to go. Here are the three best steps that you can pursue for getting back together after a breakup!

First and foremost, getting back together after a split means accepting what happened. It may be hard for you to accept that the breakup happened, but you can’t continue the relationship the way it was going. You need to accept the fact that the breakup happened so that you can work on renewing the relationship ie, changing your former partner's opinion of you, which can only happen when you change your attitude. My guess is this... Life's circumstances haven't been good as you've been expecting for a while now, causing a lack of faith, maybe you've said or have been on the receiving end of hurtful words.

Did you know that the tongue has the power of life and death by the words that come out of the mouth? And words come from the overflow of the heart (spirit)? Yes my friend, the words you say will determine your future, so try to control your tongue. Speak words in a negative manor and your world will grow darker. On the other hand, positive words of encouragement will brighten your future, it's a biblical principle. Speaking of biblical principles, here is an excellent resource to help you deal with life's challenge.

I encourage you to look into biblical principles, even if you think the bible is nonsense. Don't wait until all other resources are exhausted, you just may find a priceless hidden treasure of wisdom that will transform your relationship, not to mention your entire life.

Reuniting after a breakup means wiping the slate clean and then starting over, born again so to speak.

Secondly, reuniting after a breakup does not begin with calling your ex! Do not call your ex when you are working on getting back together after he/she split. Let things cool off, regulate your emotions and work on renewing yourself.

Also, getting back together is going to involve figuring out what went wrong. Work on improving the relationship in your mind and do not call your ex until things have normalized in your heart and head.

Finally, to bring back the one love of your life means planning for the right timing. Once you feel as though you are prepared to reunite. You can begin to plan the where, when and how. By the time you are prepared to rekindle that relationship, you will have a better idea about whether or not you are still in love with him/her. Since everything has ended now, don't worry about who’s at fault. Instead, focus on how to reunite with your lost lover and don't forget... be positive in mind and spirit.

Begin with casual conversation, a good friendship, and let things develop from there. If you take things slow and treat them positively, reuniting after a break up is easier than you imagined.

Intimacy plays a major role in staying reunited. The best way to protect your love life and precious connection with your partner is to have lots of new love making ideas ready at your disposal, when the time is right. It's also important to keep the relationship fresh after reuniting with your ex, whether it is creative dates, sex or what ever your imagination comes up with. There is no future in the past, keep looking forward...

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Before You Reunite With Ex Boyfriend Consider 3 Prequalify Factors

Image via WikipediaSeriously? Are you going to consider reuniting with your ex boyfriend? The idea seems quite exciting, doesn't it. Especially when both of you are recalling the good times you shared together. But hold the phone, you should definitely do some serious thinking before you decide to make that reunion.

Couples do successfully reunite and go on to have a very strong relationship after a breakup. However, other couples get back together for the wrong reasons. If you don't deal with and resolve the issues that led to the breakup of the relationship in the first place, then who's to say those issues won't resurface. It's right for you to want your rejuvenated relationship to be a success.

Look at these 3 prequalify factors for a lasting marital relationship, why not take the time to consider the following:

Heal old wounds

There was a reason, maybe several reasons why you and your lover broke up in the first place, correct? If so, has the issue or issues been resolved? If not, it is most likely that your relationship will fail again. This is a cold-hard fact but a true fact nun-the-less. You and your boyfriend must find a way to either deal with the problems that led to the breakup or you must jointly decide that the issues are no longer conflicts. Is it enough to simply have regrets about the relationship and how it ended? I think not, certain things must change and it is up to each of you to decide in agreement on which things will change.

Let loose of old expectations

Let's assume that you and your boyfriend decide to give the relationship another effort, you must treat it as a new relationship. Not as an extension of the old one. No, this doesn’t mean that you need to completely start from scratch. However, you will have to rebuild trust and friendship. You should both reassess your goals as a couple and work on creating a new life together, which will take tremendous dedication.

Don’t let emotions decide the reuniting question

Of course it can be a thrill to talk again with your ex again and you both may feel the euphoria of falling for each other once again. Yet allowing this feeling of being emotionally aroused to determine whether you and your boyfriend get back together could be a mistake. You need to think rationally about how a new relationship will be... without letting a flood of emotion overcome you. By the same token, when making decisions about the new beginning of the relationship, it is best to do so calmly, rationalize your thoughts with sound reason. In other words, if you allow emotions to cloud your judgment, you may come to regret it later on.

So, you really want to get back together with your boyfriend. Well, make sure that you and he are both ready for another try at a long lasting relationship. How can this be done, you ask? Make a list of "do's and do nots", a list that both of you can agree with. Make it a binding contract just between you and him. By doing so, you could wind up saving yourself a great deal of heartache, because when all the pluses and minuses are out in the open or wrote down, it is easy to determine (for each partner) whether or not this relationship will take off and fly, amen?

Sure, it's easy to believe that your x boyfriend has changed because of your great desire to reunite with him. However, you won't know until you see proof of evidence. In other words, a positive change in his behavior towards you. If you have not or do not see any proof, you are setting yourself up for failure. Instead, set yourself up for success by being honest with your boyfriend and make sure the two of you do not follow the same path that led to your first breakup.